Wedding Anniversary Etiquette – how?

Anniversary Celebration Parties and Gifts

We’ve been asked plenty of ‘how’ type questions and have repeated the regular ones below, if we have not addressed your concern then please email us via our contact page and we will endeavour to answer your question.

How do I ….

Q. I am making a anniversary speech/toast any suggestions

Q. How do I celebrate my Anniversary ?

Q. Helping a person plan an anniversary party?

Q. I am looking for information on the 75th wedding anniversary?

Q. How do I convey requests for money to the guests?

Q. We are renewing of our vows for our 50th anniversary, are there any do’s or don’ts?

Q. Would it be proper to put on the invitation RSVP or proper to enclose a response card?

Q. My mother wants to have an anniversary celebration and was told that it was not good manners to invite family?

Q. How long is the Longest Marriage on Record?

Q. I am making an anniversary speech/toast any suggestions

Yes, a few actually! One key thing that we’ve learnt whilst trying to find non derogatory jokes about wedding anniversaries for our web site (you’ll notice there is none on our site because we couldn’t find any!). Take great care not to include a joke which will slight/insult either partner. Remember it is both of them that are celebrating their anniversary and they should be able to enjoy it. If you do want to include a joke that may be considered risky make sure it is told in a third party i.e. I knew a couple who were married……

Q. How do I celebrate my Anniversary ?

Well, the first thing is don’t ignore or forget your Anniversary. This is the one day a year that is special for you and your partner.Traditionally celebrations often involve giving and receiving of cards and gifts that match the anniversary year being celebrated. Often these gifts are made of a specific material that symbolises the year being celebrated. To find your anniversary symbol select your anniversary via our anniversary by year page and all the details  including suggestions of ways to celebrate will be given to you.

Q. How do I plan a party

A. There are plenty of resources available such as books, web sites and videos that will detail how to plan a party, you could even employ a specialist party planner who will take all the stress of party planning away from you. We’ve expanded the answer to this question on our anniversary planning pages

Q. I am looking for information on the stones/metals and/or colours associated with the 75th wedding anniversary.

A. The 75th Anniversary has the following materials associated against it; diamonds, diamond-like stones, gold. Source; Chicago Public Library

Q. Money as an Anniversary gift ~ My sisters and I are throwing my parents a 30 year anniversary party.  My parents already told me that they do not want any gifts, but would prefer money.  How do I convey that to the guests?

A. It is difficult to ask for money on invitations to an anniversary celebration. I assume your parents have a specific goal for asking for money such as a holiday or a specific gift. If this is the case then it is best to use this fact. i.e. on the invitation state that your parents are saving for whatever.. and a contribution towards this would be gratefully received…. or the most appropriate gift….

Q.We are trying to plan a celebration and renewing of our vows for our 50th. anniversary, are there any do’s or don’ts to be consider, we  were married very young, so we are not really that old; still young at heart. Are there any suggestions for this  we would like to do it the proper way.

A. There is not a fixed way to have a 50th celebration and it can be up to you, the couple celebrating the anniversary, how you would like to celebrate. Even with your decision to renew your vows can be done in many ways from a low key celebration up to a re-creation of a full wedding breakfast.

Q I am have a 50th wedding anniversary celebration for my parents in February. I will be sending out invitations for this.  It will be an Open House at my parents’ home starting approximately  6 pm .  There will be food and beverages.  Would it be proper to put on the invitation to RSVP as to how many will be attending or proper to enclose a response card as to how many will be attending? — Even though it is an Open House event?   It would help in knowing how much food to prepare.

A. As you are having an open house I think that an RSVP would be most suitable.  Depending on your Social cycle it may be appropriate to put a note after the RSVP to say that it is to ensure that sufficient food is available

Q My mother wants to have an anniversary celebration and was told that it was not good manners to invite family.  This cannot be correct is it?

A. I’m not sure how this idea came about but it is not true. A lot of Anniversary Celebrations are arranged by the family especially ones above the 25th. Wedding Anniversaries can take the form of a intimate celebration for just the couple right up to a full recreation of the original wedding with a blessing service in church followed by a Anniversary Breakfast.

Q. How long is the Longest Marriage on Record?

In Australia the longest marriage on record is that of Wesley Arney (Wes) and his wife Vanetta who in 2003 celebrated their 79th anniversary unfortunately Wes passed away the same year. A brief news story on their marriage is available here.

In Britain the longest marriage on record was a couple from Bradford who celebrated their 87th Wedding Anniversary together in January 2012 (News story
here).

Wikipedia have started a page on long marriage here: Longest Marriages

Flower Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

flower wedding anniversary gifts

Themes for flower wedding anniversary gifts come from a list of popular flowers that are associated with each specific year. The different years, the majority of the time, have different flower associated with that year, here we are talking about the appropriate Flower Anniversary List, other popular lists include the the Modern, Traditional and Gemstone lists. The general idea behind this is so that you can select a gift with the theme of the material mentioned for the year thus making it easier to select an appropriate gift.

The Flower Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

The Flower Wedding Anniversary list has developed over the generations into the one shown below, some of the years have variations on the theme depending upon who has published the list. More history of how the wedding list evolved is available on our Flower Wedding List History page

Below in the list the anniversary year will link you to pages with ideas available from all the Gift lists (e.g. Traditional, Modern, Gemstone and Flower) or choose the flowers for the year you are celebrating, or buying for, for a list of wedding anniversary gifts specific to that flower and year.

Some years have no flower within the flower wedding anniversary gifts list, below the fiftieth these anniversaries will have a theme in the Modern Anniversary List. Above the 50th they have no theme or material.

Flower Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

Milestone Flower wedding anniversary gifts

This anniversary gift list is one of the only lists to break with the tradition and not use the traditional themes for the major anniversaries, instead they suggest a flower for those milestone years thus for an unusual idea you could use the flower wedding anniversary gifts list as the ideal present.

Saying it with Flowers

The meanings of flowers from the Flower wedding anniversary gifts can be found below, romantics naturally write each other love-letters be it via text, email or the true sense of the words and actually post a letter. Messages however may be sent – sometimes by a third person who is not in their happy secret – or sentiments exchanged without the written, or even the spoken word, and it is here that the language of flowers – one of the sweetest and most charming languages in the world it will be found valuable.

Every flower has a meaning, and it is possible to say ” I love you,” or “ Do you love me?” or to send a greeting, a message of hope or encouragement, by the simple means of a spray of blossom or a single flower rightly chosen. Here are the meanings of all the better-known flowers, many of which you may find growing in your own gardens or by the wayside.

Almond. This lovely blossom, coming so early in the year, means “hope,” and a girl giving a spray to her boyfriend could by this means tell him that there is a chance for him to become more than a friend, for as an old poet puts it :

“The hope, in dreams of a happier hour,

That alights on misery’s brow,

Springs out of the silvery almond flower,

That blooms on a leafless bough.”

Apple blossom. This signifies “I have heard of you,” and could be given by a girl or a young man who has at last achieved an introduction for which they have been waiting.

Asphodel. This flower has rather a sad meaning, for it signifies regret for a lost love, and to wear the asphodel means to mourn.

Aster. This flower gives a girl a chance of showing she has changed her mind, for it means ” after­thought “and, given to a boy she had sent away, might bid him hope once more.

Azalea bas a lovely meaning for it says: “True till death.”

Bachelor’s Buttons. The name of this flower will tell that it means “a single life,” and in some country districts a boy who had fallen in love with a girl would wear a “button” in his coat. If it kept fresh it was a sign the girl returned his affection, but if it faded then be was doomed to be a bachelor.

Balsam. This flower may be worn- by the girl who is not yet ready for love, since it means “touch-me-not.”

Bay-leaf. This signifies : ” I change but in death,” and would be a beautiful message to send to an absent beloved.

Belladonna (Deadly Nightshade) Owing to it’s poisonous berries this may not seem a very pleasant blossom, yet, in the flower language, it is very useful, for it means “silence” and to those lovers who wish to keep their romance a tender secret between themselves, may be very helpful at times.

Bergamot. Any girl receiving this may regard it as a compliment, for it means “sweetness.”

Bilberry. Warning may be given by means of this plant, for it means “treachery,” and can thus convey a message that a trouble-maker is near.

Bird’s-eye. This tells those who receive it to be on the alert for it signifies “watchfulness.”

Bluebell. This pretty flower means “fidelity.”

Box. Endurance.

Boy’s Love (Southernwood). This fragrant plant means “a jest” and in olden times was sometimes given by a girl to a boy whom she considered too young for serious lovemaking.

Branch of Currants. Anyone being offered this may feel flattered, for it means: “You please all.”

Briar Rose. This flower was often worn by those whose love affair was not going smoothly, for it signifies “pleasure and pain.”

Broom. A fitting flower for the shy lover, since it means “humility,” or “I am not worthy to aspire to you.”

Buttercup. A charming little flower, but with an ugly meaning, for it signifies “ingratitude.”

Calceolaria. A flower that should be pressed and treasured, for it means : “Keep this for my sake.”

Campanula. “Gratitude.”

Candytuft. A lover would, hardly be pleased to be offered & buttonhole of these pretty little flowers, for their meaning is “indifference.”

Canterbury Bell. This should be a favourite with true lovers, since it signifies “constancy.”

Carnation. This lovely flower has various meanings, according to the colour. One to whom love had come at first sight might well wear a red flower, for this means “Alas, for my poor heart.” A girl may dash her boy’s hopes with a yellow carnation, since this signifies “refusal,” while woe to the boy who is offered a striped one, with its meaning of “disdain.”

Cedar Leaf. A real lover’s message may be sent with these, since they say: “I live for thee.”

Celandine. This is for the lover who hopes, for it means “joys to come.”

Chestnut Blossom. One who has been misrepresented may well choose this flower, since it says to the loved one, “Do me justice.”

China Aster (double). This flower should be a favourite with sweethearts who have come to an understanding, for it whispers “I share your sentiments. “

Chrysanthemum (red). This bears the loveliest message in the world for it says: “I love you.”

Clarkia. This is hardly a ball­room flower, yet it is there it should be found, since it asks: “Will you dance with me?”

Clover (white). A simple little blossom to give to the friend who is going away, for it says: “Remember me.”

Clover (four-leaved). The boy who is too shy to tell his love can say: “Be mine,” with this.

Columbine. Here’s a flower for the faint-hearted, since it means: “Resolved to win.”

Convolvulus. Those whom Cupid has chained should like this, for it signifies “bonds.”

Coreopsis. “Love at first sight.”

Cornflower. A flower we should all be glad to wear, since it stands for “kindness.”

Crocus. If you have had a tiff with your man, this little flower may bear a message for you, since it means “reconciliation.”

Daffodil. All girls would like to see this flower a favourite with their boyfriends, for it stands for “chivalry.”

Dahlia. This beautiful flower has a beautiful meaning “Friendship.”

Daisy. This humble little blossom has always played a large part in the language of flowers. In olden days, when a lady was not sure about her feelings for her knight, she wreathed wild daisies in her hair, and these told him: “I will think of it.” If she accepted him, he had daisies engraved on his shield, and these proclaimed: “I share your love.”

Dog-violet. This means what all sweethearts crave: “Faithfulness.”

Eglantine (sweetbriar). This means: “I wound to heal,” and stands for the mingled pleasure and pain of love. Here is a beautiful little verse about it :

“From this bleeding hand of mine,

Take this sprig of eglantine;

Which, tho’ sweet unto your smell,

Yet, the fretful brier will tell,

He who plucks the sweets shall prove

Many thorns to be in love.”  Robert Herrick.

Elder. Blossoms of this signify something we do not like to feel : “remorse.”

Even-leaved Ash. This is a lucky leaf, as we can tell from this old rhyme:

” An even-leaved ash,

And a four-leaved clover,

You’ll see your true love,

Before the day is over.”

Fennel. This plant is said to bring its wearer “courage.”

Fern. This means what we should all like to feel we possess, “fascination.”

Forget-me-not. This has always been a lovers’ flower, and its name is its meaning. Legend tells us that it got its name from a sad incident. Two lovers were strolling by a river when the girl expressed a wish for some of the little flowers which grew by the edge of the water. Her companion began to pluck them for her, overbalanced and fell in. The current was strong and as he was swept away he flung the flowers he had gathered at her feet and cried: “Forget-me-not.”

Foxglove. This is supposed to be the fairies’ flower, but it has not a fairy meaning, since it stands for “insincerity.”

Geranium. This flower has several meanings according to its colour. The oak-leaved variety stands for “true friendship,” a scarlet flower for “comfort,” and a white one for “innocence.”

Gillyflower. This is a real “friendship” flower, for all friends like to feel they are united in “bonds of affection,” which is the meaning of this old-fashioned blossom.

Golden Rod. This is a good flower to send to the backward wooer, for it signifies “encouragement.”

Hart’s-tongue. “Longing ” is the meaning of this pretty fern.

Hawthorn. Though this fragrant blossom is so often considered unlucky, in the flower language it signifies “hope.”

Hazel. Here is a plant for those who regret a quarrel. It says: “Let us be reconciled.”

Heartsease. If you wish to tell a friend you think of him, give them this flower, which means: “You occupy my thoughts.”

Heather. This stands for “courage,” and white heather carried by a bride brings good fortune.

Heliotrope. “Devotion,” may be expressed by a gift of this lovely flower.

Hollyhock. This tall flower has a very suitable meaning, for it signifies “ambition.”

Honesty. The meaning of this flower lies in its name.

Honeysuckle. A meaning as sweet as the flower itself, for it expresses “generous and devoted affection.”

Hyacinth. Another flower which means “affection.”

Ivy. This plant has always stood for constancy and fidelity. In some countries it is a symbol of “wedded love.”

Jasmine. This should be for happy lovers, since it signifies “transport of joy.”

Jonquil. Anyone who loves could choose this flower, which murmurs: “I desire a return of affection.”

Laburnum. A flower which would appeal to the jilted, for it 1neans “forsaken.”

Laurel. The leaves of this shrub stand for “glory,” which is the reason a victor’s crown was always twined with them.

Lavender. It seems strange that so charming a bloom should bear the ugly meaning “distrust,” but there is an old belief that a certain poisonous snake always hid in the lavender bushes, hence they were to be distrusted.

Lilac. A meaning as sweet as its perfume: “First thoughts of love.”

Lily. The chosen flower of brides, it signifies “purity and sweetness,”

Lily of the Valley. This flower might well be worn by the girl who is going to meet her sweetheart after a long absence, for it means “return of happiness.”

London Pride. Not to be worn on serious occasion, since it stands for “frivolity.”

Love-in-a-mist. The ways of love are often a little mystifying, and this charming little flower signifies “perplexity.”

Love-lies-bleeding. ” Hopeless, but not heartless,” is the message of this flower.

Maiden-hair. “Secrecy” is the word whispered by this delicate fern.

Marigold. A bright flower with a dark meaning, for it expresses “grief.”

Mignonette. A great compliment may be conveyed by this, for it says: “Your qualities surpass even your charms.”

Mistletoe. We all know what is associated with this plant, but its real meaning is: “I surmount difficulties.”

Moss Rose. Here is a sweet way of making a proposal, for this lovely flower is “a confession of love.”

Mountain Ash. This means “prudence,” and was in earlier times supposed to be a guard against witchcraft.

Myrtle. There is no wonder that brides so often carry this in their wedding bouquets, for it expresses “love.”

Narcissus. The unselfish will not choose this, for it means “self­love.”

Nettle. This has a meaning very suited to it, for it says: “You are cruel.”

Periwinkle. A flower once used in the making of love potions. It signifies “early friendship.”

Petunia. “Never despair,”‘ says this happy blossom.

Pimpernel. Sweethearts may find this tiny flower useful, for it murmurs: “I will arrange a meeting.”

Pink. “Pure love ” is expressed by this old favourite.

Poppy. This is a flaunting flower, and we need not be surprised that it means “extravagance.”

Pyrethrum. This might be favoured by the girl whose sweetheart doubts her, for it says : “I have not changed; you wrong me.”

Rhododendron. A flower broken from this bids you “beware.”

Rose. The queen of flowers could not mean anything but “love,” while the old-fashioned but fragrant cabbage rose is “a messenger of love.”

Sage. ” Esteem” is expressed by this herb.

Salvia. This flower bears the sweet message: ” I think of thee.”

Scilla. This flower aims at re­conciliation, for it whispers: “Forgive and forget.”

Snapdragon. This signifies “presumption.”

Snowdrop. As this is one of the first flowers of the year it is fitting that it should express “hope.”

Sunflower. “Adoration” is the meaning of this flower.

Thrift. A flower with a pleasant meaning, for it expresses “sympathy.”

Tulip. Most girls would appreciate the message conveyed by this flower, for it stands for “a declaration of love.”

Violet. Since this little flower hides in its leaves we can understand why it expresses “modesty.”

Wallflower. This sweet, old-fashioned flower expresses a beautiful virtue: “fidelity in adversity.”

If, by good fortune, your sweetheart should find a four-leaved clover and present it to you, you may take it as a sign of the greatest luck and happiness. Here is a little beautiful legend attached to this:

Three beautiful sisters, Faith, Hope and Charity, came to visit the earth, and wherever their footsteps pressed there sprang up the fragrant clover blossoms. more But after them came an even more wonderful being whose name “Love,” and it was for him that there sprung the four-leafed clover.

Gemstone Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

multicoloured gemstones surrounding the words gemstone wedding anniversary gift list

Themes for gemstone wedding anniversary gifts come from a list of precious and semi-precious gemstones that are associated with each specific year. The different years, the majority of the time, have different gemstone associated with that year, here we are talking about the Gemstone Anniversary List, other popular lists include the the Modern, Traditional and Flower lists. The general idea behind this is so that you can select a gift with the theme of the material mentioned for the year thus making it easier to select an appropriate gift.

The Gemstone Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

The gemstone wedding anniversary list has developed over the generations into the one shown below, some of the years have variations on the theme depending upon who has published the list. More history of how the wedding list evolved is available on our Gemstone Wedding List History page.

Below in the list the anniversary year will link you to pages with ideas available from all the Gift lists (e.g. Traditional, Modern, Gemstone and Flower) or choose the gemstone for the year you are celebrating, or buying for, for a list of wedding anniversary gifts specific to that gemstone and year.

Some years have no material or theme under the gemstone anniversary list, below the fiftieth these anniversaries will have a theme in the Modern Anniversary List. Above the 50th they have no theme or material.

Gemstone Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

There are a few variations with the gemstone wedding anniversary gifts list shown above where we have found variations we have listed them with the most common/popular listed first.

Milestone Gemstone wedding anniversary gifts

As with other Wedding Anniversary Lists the Gemstone list converges with the other lists on the milestone anniversaries so the material or theme is the same as the other lists e.g. 25th Anniversary is Silver and the 40th Anniversary is Ruby

 

Modern Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

Two silver metal lovehearts intertwined seamlessly

Themes for modern wedding anniversary gifts come from a list of materials that are associated with each specific year. The different years, the majority of the time, have different themes or materials associated with that year along with different lists, here we are talking about the Modern Anniversary List, other popular lists include the the Traditional, Gemstone or Flower lists. The general idea behind this is so that you can select a gift with the theme of the material mentioned for the year thus making it easier to select an appropriate gift.

The Modern Wedding Anniversary Gifts Listhashtag loveheart and kiss emojis

The Modern wedding anniversary list was first launched in 1946 into the one shown below, some of the years have variations on the theme depending upon who has published the list subsequently. More history of how the wedding list evolved is available on our Modern Wedding List History page.

The reason it is called the modern list is simply because at the time it was published it included modern gift theme designed to encourage and promote sales of items in a time of austerity.

Below in the list the anniversary year will link you to pages with ideas available from all the Gift lists (e.g. Traditional, Modern, Gemstone and Flower) or choose the modern material for the year you are celebrating, or buying for, for a list of wedding anniversary gifts specific to that modern material and year.
The Modern Anniversary gifts list has a material theme against every year up to the 50th year and there after every fifth year until the 75th Wedding Anniversary. 

Modern Wedding Anniversary Material List

1st year wedding anniversary Clocks
2nd year wedding anniversary China
3rd year wedding anniversary Crystal or Glass
4th year wedding anniversary Electrical Appliances
5th year wedding anniversary Silverware
6th year wedding anniversary Wood
7th year wedding anniversary Desk Set
8th year wedding anniversary Linen or Lace
9th year wedding anniversary Leather
10th year wedding anniversary Diamond Jewellery
11th year wedding anniversary Fashion Jewellery
12th year wedding anniversary Pearls or Coloured Gems
13th year wedding anniversary Textiles or Furs
14th year wedding anniversary Gold Jewellery
15th year wedding anniversary Watches
16th year wedding anniversary Silver Holoware
17th year wedding anniversary Furniture
18th year wedding anniversary Porcelain
19th year wedding anniversary Bronze
20th year wedding anniversary Platinum
21st year wedding anniversary Brass or Nickel
22nd year wedding anniversary Copper
23rd year wedding anniversary Silver Plate
24th year wedding anniversary Musical Instruments
25th year wedding anniversary Silver
26th year wedding anniversary Original Pictures
27th year wedding anniversary Sculpture
28th year wedding anniversary Orchids
29th year wedding anniversary Furniture
30th year wedding anniversary Diamond Jewellery
31st year wedding anniversary Timepieces
32nd year wedding anniversary Conveyances
33rd year wedding anniversary Amethyst
34th year wedding anniversary Opal
35th year wedding anniversary  Jade
36th year wedding anniversary Bone China
37th year wedding anniversary Alabaster
38th year wedding anniversary Beryl
39th year wedding anniversary Lace
40th year wedding anniversary  Ruby
41st year wedding anniversary Land
42nd year wedding anniversary Improved Real Estate
43rd year wedding anniversary Travel
44th year wedding anniversary Groceries
45th year wedding anniversary Sapphire
46th year wedding anniversary Original Poetry Tribute
47th year wedding anniversary Books
48th year wedding anniversary Optical Goods
49th year wedding anniversary Luxuries, any kind
50th year wedding anniversary Gold Jewellery
55th year wedding anniversary Emerald
60th year wedding anniversary Diamonds
70th year wedding anniversary Platinum
75th year wedding anniversary Diamonds

There are a few variations with the modern wedding anniversary gifts list shown

 

All Important Modern wedding anniversary gifts

The modern wedding anniversary gifts list converge with the Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts List on what are deemed to be the major Anniversaries e.g 25th Anniversary is Silver, 40th Anniversary Is Ruby and the 50th Anniversary is Gold on both lists.

 

Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

Themes for traditional wedding anniversary gifts come from a list of materials that are associated with each specific year. The different years, the majority of the time, have different themes or materials associated with that year along with different lists, here we are talking about the Traditional Anniversary List, other popular lists include the the Modern, Gemstone or Flower lists. The general idea behind this is so that you can select a gift with the theme of the material mentioned for the year thus making it easier to select an appropriate gift.

The Traditional Wedding Anniversary Gifts List

The traditional wedding anniversary list has developed over the generations into the one shown below, some of the years have variations on the theme depending upon who has published the list. More history of how the wedding list evolved is available on our Traditional Wedding List History page.

Knight and his Lady with flowersThe reason it is called the traditional list is simply because it is the oldest wedding anniversary gifts list in existence, there is evidence that prior to the modern anniversary list being produced the list was known as the Wedding Anniversary List.

Below in the list the anniversary year will link you to pages with ideas available from all the Gift lists (e.g. Traditional, Modern, Gemstone and Flower) or choose the traditional material for the year you are celebrating, or buying for, for a list of wedding anniversary gifts specific to that traditional material and year.
Some years have no material or theme under the traditional anniversary list, below the fiftieth these anniversaries will have a theme in the Modern Anniversary List. Above the 50th they have no theme or material.

Traditional Wedding Anniversary Material List

There are a few variations with the traditional wedding anniversary gifts list shown above possibly the largest one being that for the first wedding anniversary as, in the United Kingdom and Europe, the 1st anniversary traditionally used to be Cotton with the second year being Paper themed. This has however been reversed now to follow the american traditional theme of Paper for the 1st year anniversary and Cotton for the 2nd year. The reason behind this is attributed to globalisation and the internet making data more accessible.

There are other variations on the traditional theme and again these tend to be local (read Country) based, for example in Germany there is also a tradition to celebrate  the Copper Anniversary which is 12 and a half years or half way through a Jubilee (which is 25 years)

All Important traditional wedding anniversary gifts

The traditional wedding anniversary gifts list is where all the important and major anniversaries come from and indeed the 25th anniversary and 50th anniversary are the oldest known anniversaries being celebrated as having symbols with the forma being the Silver Wedding and the latter Golden Wedding these can be traced back into early European history.

 

11th to 20th Wedding Anniversary Gifts

kissing couple giving anniversary giftThe 15th and 20th year are the most celebrated wedding anniversaries during this time, effectively every 5th year is seen as a major milestone in a marriage. Did you know legally a marriage is considered a long marriage after seven years?

11th Wedding anniversary

The traditional eleventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Steel. The modern eleventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fashion Jewelry. The appropriate gemstone for the eleventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Turquoise; an alternative gemstone for the eleventh wedding anniversary can be themed with Hematite. The appropriate flowers for the eleventh wedding anniversary are Morning Glories.

12th Wedding anniversary

The traditional twelfth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Linen; an alternative traditional twelfth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Silk. The modern twelfth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Colour Gems; an alternative modern twelfth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Pearls. The appropriate gemstone for the twelfth wedding anniversary has a theme of Agate. The appropriate flowers for the twelfth wedding anniversary are Peonies.

13th Wedding anniversary

The traditional thirteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace. The modern thirteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Textiles; an alternative modern thirteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Furs. The  appropriate gemstone for the thirteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Malachite; an alternative gemstone for the thirteenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Citrine; another alternative gemstone 13th wedding anniversary can be themed with Moonstone. The appropriate flowers for the thirteenth wedding anniversary are Hollyhock.

14th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fourteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Ivory. The modern fourteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold Jewelry. The appropriate gemstone for the fourteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Jewelry; an alternative gemstone for the fourteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Moss Agate. The appropriate flowers for the fourteenth wedding anniversary are Dahlia.

15th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fifteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Crystal. The modern fifteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Watches. The appropriate flowers for the fifteenth wedding anniversary are Roses.

After the fifteenth Wedding Anniversary the traditional anniversary gift list only provides a theme for every fifth year up until the 50th and then the Diamond Anniversary being the Seventy-fifth year.

16th Wedding anniversary

The modern sixteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver Hollowware.The appropriate gemstone for the sixteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Peridot; an alternative gemstone for the sixteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Aquamarine.

17th Wedding anniversary

The modern seventeenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Furniture. The appropriate gemstone for the seventeenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone for the seventeenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Citrine.

18th Wedding anniversary

The modern eighteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Porcelain. The appropriate gemstone for the eighteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Opal.

19th Wedding anniversary

The modern nineteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Bronze. The appropriate gemstone for the nineteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Aquamarine; an alternative gemstone for the nineteenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Topaz.

20th Wedding anniversary

The traditional twentieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of China. The modern twentieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bone China; an alternative modern twentieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Platinum. The appropriate flowers for the twentieth wedding anniversary are Day Lily.

1st Wedding Anniversary Gifts and Ideas

1st wedding anniversary gifts

The Traditional 1st wedding anniversary gifts have a theme or symbol of Paper; our best seller for the first anniversary is our Wedding Anniversary Memory book, made of paper and enables you to record details of where you are for each year. A Modern first wedding anniversary symbol is a Clock; we’ve got a great selection of clocks to choose from.

The Gemstone associated with this Wedding Anniversary is Fresh Water Pearls and the flowers associated with this Anniversary are Pansies.

If you are wondering what we mean by Traditional, Modern, Gemstone or associated flowers then check out our etiquette section on our main site.

Its your choice

How you choose to celebrate may set the precedence to many happy years together, if your partner decides not to celebrate your anniversary how you like now is probably the best time to discuss what your feelings are.

Intimate Celebrations

The first anniversary, as is typical for all the early anniversaries, is normally celebrated by the couple in an intimate manner, it is the later anniversaries where lavish parties are thrown; having said that if you are a party animal there is nothing stopping you having a party, get your mates round and watch the wedding video together over a pizza and a few beers.

If you do decide to throw a celebration then it would be down to the couple to arrange the function, this does not mean you have to do it personally merely that the burden is not traditionally placed on any other family member. For more etiquette answers check out our FAQs in the etiquette section. If you want more suggestions on appropriate gifts to get then select one of the hyperlinks above we’ve separated our suggestions into exotic; when you really want to push the boat out and celebrate. Sensual; for some loving and intimate ideas and finally our Thoughtful section; some of our suggestions in this section take time and devotion to make perfect however these are often the best, after all don’t they always say it’s the thought that counts!

Your 1st anniversary is special, its the first of many anniversaries and celebrates the first year with your chosen life partner. It should also be the end of a period of adjustment for both partners having spent all the seasons together in marriage you now have an understanding of future years to come.

Anniversary Ideas Home Page ~ Gifts for Wedding Anniversaries

Wedding Anniversary Ideas

Welcome to Anniversary Ideas specialists in suggesting wedding anniversary ideas and supplying anniversary gifts. From the 1st Wedding Anniversary through to the 100th anniversary year (yes there is a symbol for the 100th!) our pages supply details of the symbol or material theme for the year taken from the most often used wedding anniversary gifts lists.

Our Anniversaries by year page shows what material is traditionally associated with the anniversary year; from there or via the main menu above, you can select the year you are interested in to get anniversary ideas based upon the themes for the anniversary.

How you choose to celebrate may set the precedence to many happy years together, if your partner decides not to celebrate the anniversary how you like, now is probably the best time to discuss how you feel.

Wedding Anniversary Ideas Gift Lists

Anniversary PresentsWe’ve done a lot of the work for you as we continually search the internet to bring together some of the best and most unique anniversary gifts and ideas. Whilst we have all the top gift ideas you’ll see on many sites we also have specific ideas that match either the symbol or material mentioned in the gift lists for the anniversary year you are searching for.

There are a number of Wedding Anniversary Gift Lists, as linked below, each gift list has a different material or theme for the wedding anniversary year.

We’ve also got a list of colours appropriate to the Wedding Anniversary year.

 

History of Anniversaries : Find out what we have discovered about the history of anniversaries and how they have evolved over time. The idea of give a gift to celebrate an anniversary can be traced back to at least the middle ages in Europe and even older in other civilisations.

Anniversary Etiquette

Answer the popular questions on what the right things to do on your wedding anniversary; how to celebrate, why celebrate, gift giving guide and many more commonly asked questions. Check out our Wedding Anniversary Etiquette Pages.

Wedding Anniversaries

If you are celebrating a year that is not in the traditional wedding anniversary gift list then the Anniversaries tab above gives themes and symbols for ever year up to the 50th and then every 5th up to the 100th plus some random ones!
We used to maintain a list for the longest married couples however we discovered Wikipedia had an excellent resource showing people with the longest marriages we now just link to them.

More Anniversary Ideas

We are always on the look out for great anniversary gifts and ideas, the idea does not have to be a present; it could just be a great experience or way of commemorating the event.If you have a unique or special anniversary idea that you would like to include here then please contact us and we will review you idea with a view to include in in our pages here.
Please note that not all suggestions make it onto our database, if we recommend a site then we test the site and if they were found to have an easy to use structure and do not use pop-up advertising or malware then we include it. You should however always make sure you are happy with the site yourself when you visit as well as their current terms and conditions as we don’t actively monitor all sites mentioned.
If you have any problems navigating this site or have any comments that would improve your experience whilst visiting our site then please contact us using the ‘contact us’ link below. We always love to hear about your experience on our site.

Golden Wedding Anniversary gift ~ Hit Music of 1968 CD with Greeting Card

Hit Music of 1968 - A time to remember the classic years

Anyone celebrating their 50th Wedding Anniversary also known as their Golden Wedding in 2018 will appreciate this great gift idea as this unique bi-fold greeting gift card includes a CD with hit music of 1968 and is covered with images and memories from the year 1968.

The greeting card includes a CD full of original hits from 1968 plus it also includes a code to download all these music tracks to you computer. Especially relevant are all the tracks are recordings by the original artists of the time and are sure to bring the memories flooding back, as music does so well, to the lucky recipients.

Music of 1968 Track List:

  1. Fleetwood Mac – Albatross
  2. Simon & Garfunkel – Mrs. Robinson
  3. Gary Puckett & The Union Gap – Young Girl
  4. Andy Williams – Can’t Help Falling In Love
  5. 1910 Fruitgum Co – Simon Says
  6. Elvis Presley – Guitar Man
  7. Sly & The Family Stone – Dance To The Music
  8. Nina Simone – Ain’t Got No-I Got Life
  9. Box Tops – Cry Like A Baby
  10. Big Brother & The Holding Company – Piece Of My Heart
  11. Ohio Express – Yummy, Yummy, Yummy
  12. Reparata & The Delrons – Captain Of Your Ship
  13. Hugo Montenegro – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
  14. The Byrds – You Ain’t Going Nowhere
  15. Lemon Pipers – Green Tambourine
  16. Gun – Race With The Devil
  17. Bruce Channel – Keep On
  18. Jos? F?liciano – Light My Fire
  19. Laura Nyro – Stoned Soul Picnic
  20. The Love Affair – Everlasting Love.

The inside of the greeting card has a page with interesting facts from and about the year 1968 with a blank page for you to add your own personal message.

Furthermore the CDCard is supplied in a cellophane wrapper with it’s own white envelope for either onward posting (UK normal letter stamp size) or presenting to the recipient directly.

Card Dimensions: 14cm wide by 21cm high.

Check out our blog post titled Celebrating 50 years of marriage in 2018 with music for an in-depth look at the music on the CD including the chart positions, snippets of information about the artists plus other suggestions for music to celebrate their Golden Wedding.

Who gets involved in a Wedding Anniversary

Wedding Anniversary Etiquette – Who; Frequently Asked Questions

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Q. My Parents/ Friends Anniversary is coming up should I help them celebrate it?

A. This is a matter of judgement, if you think they would appreciate the thought then by all means celebrate the anniversary in a suitable fashion. The early Wedding Anniversaries are traditionally celebrated by the couples only although a card from friends and relatives is often a nice thought. From the 15th Anniversary onward, historically, they would also start to be celebrated within the family. This I would suggest has developed with the siblings of a couple becoming aware as they got older of their parents marriage and the important
role this took within the family.

Q. It’s a major anniversary for my parents what can I do that’s special ?

A. If they are celebrating their 60th or greater then you can arrange a greeting from the Queen if you are an Commonwealth citizen who recognises the Queen as your sovereign. Greetings can be sent for the 60th Wedding Anniversary and every subsequent year. Your request must be received at Kensington Palace six (6) weeks in advance of the event date. Follow the link to find the full instructions. Official Greetings

Q Does the couple the party is being given for give speeches?

A. With speeches it is down to the type of celebration the couple are holding, if they are having a repeat wedding breakfast then a formal speech would be expected. If they were having an informal party then an informal speech would be appropriate. Typically a speech of some type would be expected.

Q. As far as a speech is concerned, I guess we will just play that by ear and use common sense if and when the time comes that a speech is to be made…and should it be made by both partners or by just one???  I don’t know if
this is going to be “fun” or not.

A. One thing to remember is it is you & your Husband’s Anniversary and hence however you choose to approach the celebration will have to be accepted by your guests. Typically, and especially after 50 years!, one of you could speak for both of you however it is acceptable for both to give a speech if you would like to. A point to note also is that as you have not planned the celebration I would expect your speech to be a “Thank you for organizing this party….etc” rather than anything further. I sense that you are worrying about this party and I am sure this is not what you children want; perhaps you could have a word with them now and tell them you are worrying they should be able to reduce your fears. Above all this is a celebration thrown on you & your Husband’s behalf and hence it should be enjoyable for yourselves. I hope you have a wonderful time and the celebration is appropriate.

Q We are about to attend a 50th wedding anniversary. We are distant relatives. We realize the 50th is gold. We are wondering about a gift. Do we need to take one? Does it have to be gold?

A. Firstly, an invitation does not imply a gift should be given, it is not expected, does the invitation give any clue, sometimes they say no gifts or similar, if not then within your family circle when similar events go on are gifts given?, is the event formal or informal? These may help answer your question on whether they would be expected. As it is the 50th and as you stated it is the Golden Anniversary this does not mean the gift has to be Gold it is
merely the symbol associated with the anniversary. Other gifts are available such as celebration glasses, personalized gifts etc. that indicate the anniversary and are not gold. Mementoes of the actually wedding are sometimes good or even a photographic history of their life since the marriage. My personal favorite especially for the major anniversaries is a bottle of fine wine or champagne bottled in the year they got married.

Q. According to protocol, should the children throw their parents a party for their 50th anniversary?

A. Typically the earlier years are organized by the couple themselves, as their children grow up then they may choose to organize a celebration for their parents.  It is not expected that siblings should organize a 50th wedding anniversary and can be organized by the couple or their children. The decision on whether to have a celebration, and what type is very much a personal decision based upon the family culture that exists.

Q My parents have a 50th wedding anniversary coming up.  There are 4 children in the family who might be involved in the planning.  Oldest, 2nd Oldest, Third Oldest, Youngest.  Who of the siblings is normally considered the “point person” for the organization?

A. Typically it would go to the person best suited to take the role on. This may depend on who could devote the time needed to organize the celebration.

Q. Would you normally expect that it is the children of the anniversary couple who would initiate a family celebration to honour their parents 40th anniversary?

A. A lot of children do instigate an anniversary celebration however it is not expected that they should do so.  As it is the couple’s celebration they have the choice whether to celebrate or not and can organize their event or allow their siblings to take the lead.