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Wedding Anniversary Etiquette – Who; Frequently Asked Questions

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Q. My Parents/ Friends Anniversary is coming up should I help them celebrate it?

A. This is a matter of judgement, if you think they would appreciate the thought then by all means celebrate the anniversary in a suitable fashion. The early Wedding Anniversaries are traditionally celebrated by the couples only although a card from friends and relatives is often a nice thought. From the 15th Anniversary onward, historically, they would also start to be celebrated within the family. This I would suggest has developed with the siblings of a couple becoming aware as they got older of their parents marriage and the important
role this took within the family.

Q. It’s a major anniversary for my parents what can I do that’s special ?

A. If they are celebrating their 60th or greater then you can arrange a greeting from the Queen if you are an Commonwealth citizen who recognises the Queen as your sovereign. Greetings can be sent for the 60th Wedding Anniversary and every subsequent year. Your request must be received at Kensington Palace six (6) weeks in advance of the event date. Follow the link to find the full instructions. Official Greetings

Q Does the couple the party is being given for give speeches?

A. With speeches it is down to the type of celebration the couple are holding, if they are having a repeat wedding breakfast then a formal speech would be expected. If they were having an informal party then an informal speech would be appropriate. Typically a speech of some type would be expected.

Q. As far as a speech is concerned, I guess we will just play that by ear and use common sense if and when the time comes that a speech is to be made…and should it be made by both partners or by just one???  I don’t know if
this is going to be “fun” or not.

A. One thing to remember is it is you & your Husband’s Anniversary and hence however you choose to approach the celebration will have to be accepted by your guests. Typically, and especially after 50 years!, one of you could speak for both of you however it is acceptable for both to give a speech if you would like to. A point to note also is that as you have not planned the celebration I would expect your speech to be a “Thank you for organizing this party….etc” rather than anything further. I sense that you are worrying about this party and I am sure this is not what you children want; perhaps you could have a word with them now and tell them you are worrying they should be able to reduce your fears. Above all this is a celebration thrown on you & your Husband’s behalf and hence it should be enjoyable for yourselves. I hope you have a wonderful time and the celebration is appropriate.

Q We are about to attend a 50th wedding anniversary. We are distant relatives. We realize the 50th is gold. We are wondering about a gift. Do we need to take one? Does it have to be gold?

A. Firstly, an invitation does not imply a gift should be given, it is not expected, does the invitation give any clue, sometimes they say no gifts or similar, if not then within your family circle when similar events go on are gifts given?, is the event formal or informal? These may help answer your question on whether they would be expected. As it is the 50th and as you stated it is the Golden Anniversary this does not mean the gift has to be Gold it is
merely the symbol associated with the anniversary. Other gifts are available such as celebration glasses, personalized gifts etc. that indicate the anniversary and are not gold. Mementoes of the actually wedding are sometimes good or even a photographic history of their life since the marriage. My personal favorite especially for the major anniversaries is a bottle of fine wine or champagne bottled in the year they got married.

Q. According to protocol, should the children throw their parents a party for their 50th anniversary?

A. Typically the earlier years are organized by the couple themselves, as their children grow up then they may choose to organize a celebration for their parents.  It is not expected that siblings should organize a 50th wedding anniversary and can be organized by the couple or their children. The decision on whether to have a celebration, and what type is very much a personal decision based upon the family culture that exists.

Q My parents have a 50th wedding anniversary coming up.  There are 4 children in the family who might be involved in the planning.  Oldest, 2nd Oldest, Third Oldest, Youngest.  Who of the siblings is normally considered the “point person” for the organization?

A. Typically it would go to the person best suited to take the role on. This may depend on who could devote the time needed to organize the celebration.

Q. Would you normally expect that it is the children of the anniversary couple who would initiate a family celebration to honour their parents 40th anniversary?

A. A lot of children do instigate an anniversary celebration however it is not expected that they should do so.  As it is the couple’s celebration they have the choice whether to celebrate or not and can organize their event or allow their siblings to take the lead.

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Celebrating 50 years of marriage in 2018 with Music

Golden Wedding 50th Anniversary Music from 1968Many parties are thrown to celebrate a Golden Wedding Anniversary whether they are formal, informal or just slung together we can help with the right music to celebrate 50 years of marriage.

Get our CD gift greeting card for 1968 which has a CD  inside with a multitude of top hits from the year they were married with many love songs that will bring the memories of yester-year flooding back.

The complete playlist is as follows with a brief synopsis as well to help you.

  1. Fleetwood Mac – Albatross ~ First Released 22 November 1968, eventually got to No.1 on 25th January 1969 spending 18 weeks on the chart this time (it has a number of releases) although this remains Fleetwood Mac’s only ever UK number one hit.
  2. Simon & Garfunkel – Mrs. Robinson ~ Made Famous from the Sound track of the film with the same name, the film was released in advance of the single (in 1967) and the Single reached it’s highest position of No. 4 in the week ending 7th August 1968.
  3. Gary Puckett & The Union Gap – Young Girl ~ Reached No. 1 Weekending 22nd May 1968 and stayed there for another 3 weeks remaining on the top 40 chart for 16 weeks.
  4. Andy Williams – Can’t Help Falling In Love ~ Reached No. 5 in the week ending 1st May 1968 and was in the top 40 for 14 weeks.
  5. 1910 Fruitgum Co – Simon Says ~ A classic bubblegum pop record, first release in the UK in March 1968 it reached No. 2 in the week ending 1st May 1968 spending 14 weeks on the top 40 chart.
  6. Elvis Presley – Guitar Man ~ Released in 1967 in the USA it was not released in the UK until Feb. 1968 only reaching No. 19 in the top 40 in the week ending 27th March 1968.
  7. Sly & The Family Stone – Dance To The Music ~ Released in the UK in July 1968 this song reached No. 7 in the week ending 14th August 1968 remaining in the top 40 for 13 weeks.
  8. Nina Simone – Ain’t Got No-I Got Life ~ Released on October 1968 it reached N0. 2 in the week ending 18th December 1968 spending 10 weeks on the chart.
  9. Box Tops – Cry Like A Baby ~  Released in April 1968 it reached No. 15 in the UK charts in the week ending 1st May 1968 spending 10 weeks in the top 40.
  10. Big Brother & The Holding Company (Feat. Janis Joplin) – Piece Of My Heart ~ In 2004, the Big Brother and the Holding Company version was ranked number 353 on Rolling Stone’s list of the 500 Greatest Songs of All Time. The song is also included among The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame’s 500 Songs that Shaped Rock and Roll.
  11. Ohio Express – Yummy, Yummy, Yummy ~ reached No. 5 in the top 40 in the week ending 17th July 1968 spending 12 weeks on the chart.
  12. Reparata & The Delrons – Captain Of Your Ship ~ An American Girl group who found more fame in the UK their their native USA. Following the success of this single, the group toured the United Kingdom, with the backing group Clouds.
  13. Hugo Montenegro – The Good, The Bad & The Ugly ~ This is the sound track to the same film however this No. 1 hit was a cover of the original with the film being released in 1966. It has since become one of the most iconic scores in film history. The record reached No. 1 in the week ending 13th November 1968 and stayed there for 4 weeks remaining in the top 40 for 20 weeks.
  14. The Byrds – You Ain’t Going Nowhere ~ This is a classic Bob Dylan track covered by The Byrds, although popular it never got above 45th position in the UK charts although did better in Canada reaching No. 11.
  15. Lemon Pipers – Green Tambourine ~ Absolute classic sixties hippy chick music iconic of the era. Peaked at No. 7 in the week ending 13th March 1968 remaining in the top 40 for 10 weeks.
  16. Gun – Race With The Devil ~ Great Guitar Riff in this song Reached N0. 8 in the week ending 18th December 1968.
  17. Bruce Channel – Keep On ~ reached No 12 in the top 40 in August 1968 spending 14 weeks on the chart top forty.
  18. José Féliciano – Light My Fire ~ Vocalist and guitarist José Féliciano experienced significant international success when he released his version of “Light My Fire” in 1968 as a single it Peaked in the UK on 30th October 1968 at No. 6 position spending 12 weeks in the top 40.
  19. Laura Nyro – Stoned Soul Picnic ~The best-known version of the song was recorded by The 5th Dimension, and was the first single released from their album of the same title. It was the most successful single from that album, reaching No.3 on the U.S. Pop chart and No.2 on the Billboard R&B chart. It became a platinum record. Source Wikipedia
  20. The Love Affair – Everlasting Love. ~ An complete classic finishes off this CD perfectly, if was No. 1 for two weeks reach number one on the week of 31st January 1968, it remained on the charts for 12 weeks.

You could complement this with the number one for the week they got married (check what song here http://www.officialcharts.com/archive-chart/_/1/1964/) or if you want a longer playlist then how about a montage of number ones from their anniversary for every year since they wed.

Other memorable chart hits during this year that cannot be included due to differing Artist copyrights are Clif Richard’s No. 1 Hit ‘Congratulations’ and a version of ‘Anniversary Waltz’ sung by the iconic Anita Harris.