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Wedding Anniversary Etiquette – What… ; Frequently Asked Questions


Q.What is my Wedding Anniversary symbol or material?

A.If you know how many years you have been married or are planning to celebrate then you can find out what you anniversary is from our anniversary selector page. All those that have a traditional symbol or material associated against the year are listed here.


Q.I forgot my Wedding anniversary this year what should I do?

A. If your partner is upset by this then we would recommend a period of grovelling followed by a period of penance !!  In this day and age it is often easy to forget important days such as Anniversaries by all means use our reminder to help you remember and it is provided only for this purpose.


Q.What are the Anniversaries that are considered major? The most major anniversaries are the 25th and 50th, after these come 60th & 75th and then every 5th year (i.e. 5th,10th 15th etc.) with every 10th year being more important than every 5th year.


Q.Hi, I’m doing research on the wedding anniversary materials. What I’m really looking for is what each material means. Do they represent something in each year. Please email me back if you have any information about the subject, or where I can find this kind of information. Thank you.

A. I’m afraid I can’t help you in your search for the meanings of the material against the Anniversary. The closest I have come to this is the suggestion that the materials are
selected in the order that they would wear out. I have however never had this collaborated by any research I have carried out.


Q. It will be my in laws 40th wedding anniversary.  What can I do to make it special and inexpensive?

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Q. My problem is that I don’t know exactly what our children are doing for us…we do know they are having some kind of a celebration but we do not know the particulars.  SO, we want to be ready for what ever comes up and not have “egg on our face”.   I told them what ever they did, please state “No Gifts Please”. An invitation to
a celebration does not confer an expectation that gifts are expected the persons company is considered gift enough.

Q. Please help us find the right motif colour for the 65th wedding anniversary of our grandparents.  A. I afraid I cannot help you with your question either as I have not been able to find much details on
the 65th anniversary. Most lists miss out the 65th for some reason I have yet to discover. The only list I have found which contains a material for the 65th is the Gem stone list which states Star Sapphire as the Gem Stone associated with this Anniversary.


Q. What do you do for the 100th year Anniversary? A. A 100th Wedding Anniversary is a 10 carat Diamond anniversary and I would be
surprised to hear of couple achieving this feat. I assume you are talking about a company’s Centenary celebration which is slightly different although it is still called a Diamond Anniversary.


Q. I am giving my parents a surprise 25th anniversary party but I have a concern regarding gifts. my mother hates silver! what are some optional gifts i could suggest?

A. I’m afraid I can’t help you much on this one, all roads seem to lead to Silver on this
anniversary. I thought that the Gem list for anniversaries may show a different material however this was sterling silver.  One thing you could do is recreate the era when they got married and theme gifts on that era. I make it the 70’s which would either be the Glam
Rock era or early Disco!


Q. We are giving our parents a 50th Anniversary and would like to know what we should call the female and male witnesses – attendant and grooms-man?

A. Most references refer to them as witnesses, which is not a bad term in itself as this is mentioned right back to the birth of marriage ceremonies. If they did some other function at
the wedding then these titles would also do.


Q. Is there a traditional colour for the bride of 50 years to wear?

A. As it is the Golden Anniversary the colour is Gold, this doesn’t mean that the outfit has to be all gold you could choose just accessories or anywhere in between. One thing to remember however; is that it is your anniversary and thus etiquette allows you to decide what you
want to wear and how you would like to celebrate.


Q. If one of the children make a speech, what response and toasts, if any, should the parents make?

A. The replies you give to any speeches made are very dependant upon your family circle & culture; this makes this a difficult question to answer with certainty. Typically anniversary speeches follow along similar lines to a wedding celebration and thus thanking those who organized the event and for the people who turned up to join you in your celebration.
One thing to bare in mind is that it is your anniversary and thus you can choose how to respond.


Q. What is the proper way to ask for monetary gifts on an invitation for my parents 40th wedding anniversary. They do not want to offend anyone by asking. How can this be placed on the invitation in a nice manner.

A. It’s extremely difficult to ask for money on an invitation, most reference books on Anniversary Etiquette say that you should never ask for a monetary gift.  One way I’ve seen round this and was successful was to put on the invitation the reason for money, e.g. They are saving for a holiday of a lifetime or what ever the reason and that should you wish to contribute to this then there will be a collection box at the celebration that they can
contribute. At the particular event I attended the box was placed prominently but discreetly in a corner of the room and thus you did not feel you had to contribute.


Q. I was just wondering what the 100th anniversary is.  Any information you could provide would be helpful. A. The 100th Wedding Anniversary is deemed a 10 Carat Diamond Anniversary, if it is a business celebration then it is just a centenary celebration.

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Q. My Parents/ Friends Anniversary is coming up should I help them celebrate it?

A. This is a matter of judgement, if you think they would appreciate the thought then by all means celebrate the anniversary in a suitable fashion. The early Wedding Anniversaries are traditionally celebrated by the couples only although a card from friends and relatives is often a nice thought. From the 15th Anniversary onward, historically, they would also start to be celebrated within the family. This I would suggest has developed with the siblings of a couple becoming aware as they got older of their parents marriage and the important
role this took within the family.

Q. It’s a major anniversary for my parents what can I do that’s special ?

A. If they are celebrating their 60th or greater then you can arrange a greeting from the Queen if you are an Commonwealth citizen who recognises the Queen as your sovereign. Greetings can be sent for the 60th Wedding Anniversary and every subsequent year. Your request must be received at Kensington Palace six (6) weeks in advance of the event date. Follow the link to find the full instructions. Official Greetings

Q Does the couple the party is being given for give speeches?

A. With speeches it is down to the type of celebration the couple are holding, if they are having a repeat wedding breakfast then a formal speech would be expected. If they were having an informal party then an informal speech would be appropriate. Typically a speech of some type would be expected.

Q. As far as a speech is concerned, I guess we will just play that by ear and use common sense if and when the time comes that a speech is to be made…and should it be made by both partners or by just one???  I don’t know if
this is going to be “fun” or not.

A. One thing to remember is it is you & your Husband’s Anniversary and hence however you choose to approach the celebration will have to be accepted by your guests. Typically, and especially after 50 years!, one of you could speak for both of you however it is acceptable for both to give a speech if you would like to. A point to note also is that as you have not planned the celebration I would expect your speech to be a “Thank you for organizing this party….etc” rather than anything further. I sense that you are worrying about this party and I am sure this is not what you children want; perhaps you could have a word with them now and tell them you are worrying they should be able to reduce your fears. Above all this is a celebration thrown on you & your Husband’s behalf and hence it should be enjoyable for yourselves. I hope you have a wonderful time and the celebration is appropriate.

Q We are about to attend a 50th wedding anniversary. We are distant relatives. We realize the 50th is gold. We are wondering about a gift. Do we need to take one? Does it have to be gold?

A. Firstly, an invitation does not imply a gift should be given, it is not expected, does the invitation give any clue, sometimes they say no gifts or similar, if not then within your family circle when similar events go on are gifts given?, is the event formal or informal? These may help answer your question on whether they would be expected. As it is the 50th and as you stated it is the Golden Anniversary this does not mean the gift has to be Gold it is
merely the symbol associated with the anniversary. Other gifts are available such as celebration glasses, personalized gifts etc. that indicate the anniversary and are not gold. Mementoes of the actually wedding are sometimes good or even a photographic history of their life since the marriage. My personal favorite especially for the major anniversaries is a bottle of fine wine or champagne bottled in the year they got married.

Q. According to protocol, should the children throw their parents a party for their 50th anniversary?

A. Typically the earlier years are organized by the couple themselves, as their children grow up then they may choose to organize a celebration for their parents.  It is not expected that siblings should organize a 50th wedding anniversary and can be organized by the couple or their children. The decision on whether to have a celebration, and what type is very much a personal decision based upon the family culture that exists.

Q My parents have a 50th wedding anniversary coming up.  There are 4 children in the family who might be involved in the planning.  Oldest, 2nd Oldest, Third Oldest, Youngest.  Who of the siblings is normally considered the “point person” for the organization?

A. Typically it would go to the person best suited to take the role on. This may depend on who could devote the time needed to organize the celebration.

Q. Would you normally expect that it is the children of the anniversary couple who would initiate a family celebration to honour their parents 40th anniversary?

A. A lot of children do instigate an anniversary celebration however it is not expected that they should do so.  As it is the couple’s celebration they have the choice whether to celebrate or not and can organize their event or allow their siblings to take the lead.

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1st Wedding anniversary

The traditional first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Paper. The modern first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Clocks. The gemstone first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fresh Water Pearl. The appropriate flowers for the first wedding anniversary are Pansies.

2nd Wedding anniversary

The traditional second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Cotton; an alternative traditional second wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Straw. The modern second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of China. The appropriate gemstone for the second wedding anniversary has a theme of Rose Quartz; an alternative gemstone for the second wedding anniversary can be themed with Garnet. The appropriate flowers for the second wedding anniversary are Cosmos.

3rd Wedding anniversary

The traditional third wedding anniversary has a theme of Leather. The modern third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Crystal; an alternative modern third wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Glass. The appropriate gemstone for the third wedding anniversary has a theme of Crystal. The flowers for the third wedding anniversary are Fushsia.

4th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fruit & Flowers; an alternative traditional fourth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Books. The modern fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Electrical Appliance. The gemstone fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone fourth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Topaz. The appropriate flowers for the fourth wedding anniversary are Geranium.

5th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Wood. The modern fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silverware. The gemstone fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Turquoise. The appropriate flowers for the fifth wedding anniversary are Daisies.

6th Wedding anniversary

The traditional sixth wedding anniversary has a theme of Sugar; an alternative traditional sixth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Iron. The modern sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Wood. The appropriate gemstone for the sixth wedding anniversary has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone for the 6th wedding anniversary can be themed with Garnet. The appropriate flowers for the sixth wedding anniversary are Calla lilies.

7th Wedding anniversary

The traditional seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Wool; an alternative traditional seventh wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Copper. The modern seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Desk Set. The appropriate gemstone for the seventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Lapis Lazuli; an alternative gemstone for the seventh wedding anniversary can be themed with Onyx. The appropriate flowers for the seventh wedding anniversary are Jack-in-the-pulpit.

8th Wedding anniversary

The traditional eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bronze; an alternative traditional eighth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Pottery. The modern eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace; an alternative modern eighth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Linen. The appropriate gemstone for the eighth wedding anniversary has a theme of Aventurine; an alternative gemstone for the eighth wedding anniversary can be themed with Multi-coloured Tourmaline. The appropriate flowers for the eighth wedding anniversary are Clematis.

9th Wedding anniversary

The traditional ninth wedding anniversary has a theme of Pottery. ; an alternative traditional ninth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Willow. The modern ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Leather. The appropriate gemstone for the ninth wedding anniversary has a theme of Tiger Eye; an alternative gemstone for the ninth wedding anniversary can be themed with Lapis Lazuli.The appropriate flowers for the ninth wedding anniversary are Poppies.

10th Wedding anniversary

The traditional tenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Tin; an alternative traditional tenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Aluminum. The modern tenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamond Jewellery. The  appropriate gemstone for the tenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Black Onyx. The appropriate flowers for the tenth wedding anniversary are Daffodils.

11th Wedding anniversary

The traditional eleventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Steel. The modern eleventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fashion Jewellery. The appropriate gemstone for the eleventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Turquoise; an alternative gemstone for the eleventh wedding anniversary can be themed with Hematite. The appropriate flowers for the eleventh wedding anniversary are Morning Glories.

12th Wedding anniversary

The traditional twelfth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Linen; an alternative traditional twelfth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Silk. The modern twelfth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Colour Gems; an alternative modern twelfth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Pearls. The appropriate gemstone for the twelfth wedding anniversary has a theme of Agate. The appropriate flowers for the twelfth wedding anniversary are Peonies.

13th Wedding anniversary

The traditional thirteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace. The modern thirteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Textiles; an alternative modern thirteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Furs. The  appropriate gemstone for the thirteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Malachite; an alternative gemstone for the thirteenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Citrine; another alternative gemstone 13th wedding anniversary can be themed with Moonstone. The appropriate flowers for the thirteenth wedding anniversary are Hollyhock.

14th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fourteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Ivory. The modern fourteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold Jewellery. The appropriate gemstone for the fourteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Jewellery; an alternative gemstone for the fourteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Moss Agate. The appropriate flowers for the fourteenth wedding anniversary are Dahlia.

15th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fifteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Crystal. The modern fifteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Watches. The appropriate flowers for the fifteenth wedding anniversary are Roses.

After the fifteenth Wedding Anniversary the traditional anniversary gift list only provides a theme for every fifth year up until the 50th and then the Diamond Anniversary being the Seventy-fifth year.

16th Wedding anniversary

The modern sixteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver Hollowware.The appropriate gemstone for the sixteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Peridot; an alternative gemstone for the sixteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Aquamarine.

17th Wedding anniversary

The modern seventeenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Furniture. The appropriate gemstone for the seventeenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone for the seventeenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Citrine.

18th Wedding anniversary

The modern eighteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Porcelain. The appropriate gemstone for the eighteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Opal.

19th Wedding anniversary

The modern nineteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Bronze. The appropriate gemstone for the nineteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Aquamarine; an alternative gemstone for the nineteenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Topaz.

20th Wedding anniversary

The traditional twentieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of China. The modern twentieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bone China; an alternative modern twentieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Platinum. The appropriate flowers for the twentieth wedding anniversary are Day Lily.

21st Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-first wedding anniversary has a theme of Nickel; an alternative modern twenty-first wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Brass. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-first wedding anniversary has a theme of Iolite.

22nd Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-second wedding anniversary has a theme of Copper. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-second wedding anniversary has a theme of Spinel (all Colours).

23rd Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver plate. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-third wedding anniversary has a theme of Imperial Topaz.

24th Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Musical Instruments. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-fourth wedding anniversary has a theme of Tanzanite.

25th Wedding anniversary also known as the Silver Wedding

The traditional twenty fifth wedding anniversary has a theme of Silver. The modern twenty fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty fifth wedding anniversary has a theme of Sterling Silver. The appropriate flowers for the twenty fifth wedding anniversary are Iris or is Iri the correct plural.

26th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Original Pictures.

27th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sculpture.

28th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Orchids.

29th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Furniture.

30th Wedding anniversary also known as the Pearl Wedding

The traditional thirtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Pearls. The modern thirtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamond Jewellery. The appropriate flowers for the thirtieth wedding anniversary are Sweet pea.

31st Wedding anniversary

The thirty-first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Timepieces.

32nd Wedding anniversary

The thirty-second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Conveyances.

33rd Wedding anniversary

The thirty-third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Amethyst.

34th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Opal.

35th Wedding anniversary also known as the Coral Wedding

The traditional thirty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Coral. The modern thirty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Jade.

36th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bone China.

37th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alabaster.

38th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Beryl.

39th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace.

40th Wedding anniversary also known as the Ruby Wedding

The traditional fortieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby. The modern fortieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby. The gemstone fortieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby. The appropriate flowers for the fortieth wedding anniversary are Nasturtium.

41st Wedding anniversary

The forty-first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Land.

42nd Wedding anniversary

The forty-second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Improved Real Estate.

43rd Wedding anniversary

The forty-third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Travel.

44th Wedding anniversary

The forty-fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Groceries.

45th Wedding anniversary also known as the Sapphire Wedding

The traditional forty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire. The modern forty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire. The gemstone forty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alexandrite.

46th Wedding anniversary

The forty-sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Original Poetry Tribute.

47th Wedding anniversary

The forty-seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Books.

48th Wedding anniversary

The forty-eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Optical Goods.

49th Wedding anniversary

The forty-ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Luxuries, any Kind.

50th Wedding anniversary also known as the Golden Wedding

The traditional fiftieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold. The modern fiftieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold Jewellery. The appropriate flowers for the fiftieth wedding anniversary are Violets.

After the fiftieth wedding anniversary most of the anniversary gift lists move to only nominating a theme ever five years.

55th Wedding anniversary also known as the Emerald Wedding

The traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of 55th; an alternative traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald. The modern fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Emerald. The gemstone fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alexandrite.

60th Wedding anniversary

The modern sixtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The gemstone sixtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.

65th Wedding anniversary

The sixty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Star Sapphire.

70th Wedding anniversary

The modern seventieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Platinum.

75th Wedding anniversary also known as the Diamond Wedding

The traditional seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The modern seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.

80th Wedding anniversary

The eightieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Pearls; an alternative modern eightieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds. Oak has also been mentioned although no reference source can be found for this theme.

85th Wedding anniversary

The eight-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire; an alternative modern eight fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.

90th Wedding anniversary

The ninetieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds; an alternative modern ninetieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald.

95th Wedding anniversary

The ninety-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby; an alternative modern ninety fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.

100th Wedding anniversary

The one hundredth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ten Carat Diamond.