Anniversary Party Planning & Etiquette

Party Planning FAQ

Any celebration needs a level of planning to ensure it is successful. A common question is when do you start this planning? This is depends on what type of party you are having and what you need for the party. We’ve found, especially with Anniversary parties, the opposite is often the case in that you’ve become aware the anniversary is coming up and decide to have a party late in the day.

The starting point is deciding when you want the celebration. The obvious choice is on the actual anniversary date however if this falls midweek then you may consider moving it to the nearest weekend to allow your friends and family to attend without having to take time off work etc. It’s also a good idea to have it at the weekend as it helps the party atmosphere when people are more relaxed knowing they do not have to get up for work the next day.

As an aside your 25th anniversary (Silver) would generally fall 4 week days in advance of your actual wedding day e.g. if you got married on a Sunday then your 25th Anniversary will fall on a Thursday, likewise your 40th (Ruby Wedding) will fall on the week day after the week day you got married with the 50th Anniversary (Golden Wedding) will fall on the actual week day you got married or the day before. These are estimates that take into account leaps years for marriages that occurred between 1960-2000, the actual day however depends on the number of leap years between the two dates.

Etiquette experts are divided on whether it is appropriate to have an anniversary party at an alternative date or season. We would generally recommend it is best to have it as close as possible to the anniversary date and if possible within a month of the anniversary date either way.

Combining an anniversary with another event is not a particularly good idea as this detracts from the focus on the couple, this is especially true for the major anniversaries.

Check the date selected with key people. 

At any party, large or small, make sure you have checked that the guests of honour, closest friends and family will be able to attend and that the date does not conflict with other major anniversaries (particularly bad anniversaries, e.g. deaths of prominent figures either in the family or in society) that may conflict or take away the focus on the couple celebrating the anniversary before you set the date in stone. If you are worried about key people being occupied on the specific date then it may be worth sending out a “save a date” notelet or postcard as early as possible to notify them in advance of the official invitation

If you want a popular location you’ll generally find you would have needed to start last week; don’t you always find that? You go to book a venue and they say the date you wanted was booked last week! Anyway I digress.

If you are planning on a large celebration then you should have thought about it well in advance possibly as far away as a year. If you think of marriages, these are often planned up to a year or longer in advance to ensure you can get the right venue and other requirements, as you would use similar resources for large anniversary celebrations you are effectively competing with these other events for the right venue.

This is more important if you want a weekend celebration as with only 52 weekends a year of which 2 are likely to be the most appropriate to when the anniversary falls then it is important to secure a popular venue early.

Who to invite and how many people?

These two questions are often interrelated, the answer also depends upon the type of party you are having, if you are having a intimate family gathering then the number and who will be decided within that circle. If however you are having a repeat of your wedding breakfast then who to invite is opened up to friends both past and present and your extended family.

Bookings resources (caterers, restaurants, MCs, bands etc.)

Allow at least two months to book up caterers or a restaurant. Remember: the bigger the party, the more notice you need to give. Even if you’ve decided to cater for yourself and only want to hire some waiters, more glasses and plates, you’ll need to book these up too. The more you can plan in advance the easier it will be nearer the time.

Resources for those unable to attend the event.

How about setting up a web cam for the event and letting people unable to attend know the how to access it on the day so that they can log on to send their congratulations. This is especially good for a geographically dispersed family.

Failing that you could get them to send in congratulatory emails/telegrams/letters/cards ahead of time so that they can either be placed on a wall board at the event or read out during a speech.

What to call it.

  • Cocktail parties only occur after 5.00 pm
  • Open house parties (a.k.a. Come and go parties) occur at any time.
  • Dessert celebrations typically occur in the afternoon.
  • Pitch-in celebrations can occur at any time.

Venue

An anniversary party is what you want it to be, whether that means a relatively straightforward get-together in your home or a more formal affair in a location with caterers and possibly entertainment or a private function room in a restaurant or hotel.

40th Anniversary Champagne Flutes

These flutes are specially designed with the 40th anniversary in mind, each flute has a loveheart on the stem with 40 in the middle, both the love heart and 40 have red crystals mounted within them to give that extra sparkleto these lovely flutes.

SKU: WBSP347_3619

GTIN: 5017224339415

Delivery target: 1-2 days

 

This is a great gift idea for any couple celebrating theirRuby Wedding.

The flutes are specially designed with the 40th anniversary inmind as each flute has a loveheart on the stem with 40 in the middle, both theloveheart and 40 have red crystals mounted within them to give that extra sparkleto these lovely flutes.

The base and loveheart are silver-plated whilst the flute is made of glass to ensure the appropriate chink sound is heard when toasted! The weight of each glass with its silver plated stem gives a feel of quality to the flutes and for the price we feel they will not disappoint.

These flutes are equally great to use as toasting flutes ata party celebration or at an intimate dinner for two.

Supplied in pairs in a silk lined presentation box with clear plasticcover. (i.e. Order a quantity of 1 to recieve 2 flutes in a single presentation box.)

Dimensions:

Each Flute: 26cm high, base diameter 6.5cm, rim diameter5.5cm

Presentation Box: 29.5cm high,18cm wide by 7.5cm deep.

40th Anniversary; Ruby Wedding Photo frame and Album

Grab a bargain with this delightful Photo frame and Album set now with free shipping. An ideal gift for a couple celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary. Every party has a person with a camera roaming about, so what better than putting the photos in this set as a great keepsake.   Perhaps you could mix it up, a picture of the day in the frame and pictures of the 40th party in the album. Either way this inexpensive gift is ideal as a heartfelt keepsake. There is embroidered detailing on the front of both the album and photo frame depicting love hearts and 40 for the number of years this gift is celebrating. The set contains a fabric covered photo frame and 20 page fabric covered photo album which can accomodate photos up to 7 Inches by 5 Inches. Each album page has the protective paper seen in good quality albums and comes with 80 photo corners to allow positioning of the photos. The Set comes supplied in its own presentation box with clear front which is approximately A4 in size. Dimensions: Photo Frame: 15cm x 15cm Photo Album: 22 cm wide 15cm high by 2.5cm deep.

Products specifications

Traditional Anniversary List 40th – Ruby
Modern or Contemporary Anniversary List 40th – Ruby
Photographic Aperture Size 5″ x 5″ (130mm x 130mm)

Invitations to an Anniversary Party

Invitations to an Anniversary Party

The formal rules of Invitation etiquette
Traditional formal anniversary invitation line by line wording
Informal Invitations
Responding to an invitation to an anniversary party

Invitations- timing

The invitations to an anniversary celebration should be sent out at least 6 weeks in advance.

If the party is during the vacation or Holiday period then it may be worth sending out a “save the date” notelet or postcard in advance of the actual invitations, this should be done from anything from six months to a year in advance.

The formal rules of Invitation etiquette

  1. All phrasing is in the third person.
  2. Punctuation is not used at the ends of lines (commas, periods, colons, etc.); however, commas are used within lines to separate the day from the date, the city from the state and a man’s surname from “Jr./junior/Senior/II/III”, etc.
  3. No abbreviations are used. Either spell out a name or leave it out: “Phillip Christopher Holly” not “Phil C. Holly.” Also, “Road”, “Street”, “Avenue”, “Doctor”, “Reverend”, and all military or other titles should be spelled out. Exceptions are: “Mr.” and “Mrs.” Most etiquette specialists prefer that “junior” be spelled out. When it is spelled out, the “j” should not be capitalized.
  4. If both Mr. and Mrs. Doolittle are doctors, they can be referred to as “The Doctors Doolittle.”
  5. Days, dates, and times are always spelled out.
  6. Only proper nouns are capitalized (names of people, places, cities, states, the day of the week, month name, etc.) Exceptions are the year line (“Two thousand and three”) or where the noun is the beginning of a new sentence or thought (“T” in “The favour of a reply is requested”)

It is considered socially incorrect to write, “no children please” on the invitation or any part of the anniversary ensemble. In theory the invitation is only for those people mentioned on it by name and hence if the children’s names do not appear by name then they are not invited. You cannot however only invite one half of a couple as this is considered ill-mannered.

“Black tie” does not traditionally appear on the invitation. If the event takes place after six o’clock, your guests should assume that it is a formal event. If you are concerned, however, you may write “Black tie” as a right footnote on your reception card. Note: the “B” in “Black tie” is capitalized, but not the “t.”
Be consistent with your usage of “honour/favour” or “honor/favor.” Traditionally the formal, British spelling with the “u” is preferred in proper etiquette but whichever form you choose, use it in both words.

When social circles use formal etiquette it is considered extremely socially incorrect to make any mention of gifts on invitations on the theory that you should expect nothing from your friends or family except the honor of their presence, therefore never put the name of a charity for donations or your desire for money rather than presents. (Gifts give further details)

Traditional formal anniversary invitation line by line wording:

  1. Begin with the full, formal name(s) and title(s) of the event sponsors. These are not necessarily the people who are paying for the celebration. While the couple’s children traditionally sponsor a major anniversary, anyone can be a sponsor, including the couple, other relatives or friends. If all children are sponsoring the event you can use “The children of ” then full, formal name(s) of the couple.
  2. Following the name(s) is the phrase “request the honour of your presence” if a reaffirmation service is being held in a house of worship. The alternative “request the pleasure of your company” is used for an anniversary celebration held which does not include a reaffirmation service. See Additional Note
  3. The next line reads “at the [Anniversary Year, e.g. Twenty fifth or Silver] Wedding Anniversary of their [parents]” or whatever the relation is between the sponsor(s) and the couple, e.g Friends, sister, brother etc.
  4. On the next line, spell out the day and date with the spelled-out number before the name of the month and a comma separating the day from the date: “on Saturday, the first of May.” Using “on” before the name of the day is optional but if you do, do not capitalize the “o.”
  5. Listing the year is optional. If you choose to do so, it appears on the line following the day/date line. Only the first letter of the first word of the line is capitalized: “The year two thousand and three” or “Two thousand and nine.”
  6. On the line after the date comes the time. Show this spelled out: “at seven o’clock” with the word “at” preceding the time. You do not need to put “in the morning” or “in the evening” since it should be obvious but you may if you would like to and must if it is not obvious. In any case, you should never put “a.m.” or “p.m.” on a formal invitation.
  7. The name of the place goes on the next line: “Sterling Cathedral”, “The Anniversary Inn” or simply the address if the party is in someone’s home.
  8. Including the address for the place is optional (unless the party is in someone’s home). If you do include it, place it on the line immediately below the name of the place.
  9. Generally the last line lists the city and state, separated by a comma: “New York, New York .” Note that you never put a zip code here.
  10. If you are having a reaffirmation service, you would include the information here as to the planned reception afterward on the last line of the invitation: “Reception immediately following”, “Reception to follow” or “and afterwards at the reception.” These sentences indicate that the reception is in the same place as the reaffirmation service. If it is not, reconsider ordering separate reception cards so that the important wording of your invitation will not be reduced in point size to accommodate the several extra lines of the reception information.
  11. If you are not using response cards and envelopes, in the lower left hand corner include “The favour of a reply is requested”, or “R.s.v.p.”, and a response address; however, if you have a reception card, put the R.s.v.p. line there in order to leave the invitation uncluttered. Note that formally only the “R” in “R.s.v.p.” is capitalized since this is an abbreviation for a French sentence, “Répondez s’il vous plaît.” Similarly, since the sentence means “please respond”, never say “Please R.s.v.p.” since that would be redundant.

As a brief summary the following should be included on an invitation;
Name of Couple, Host(s) or Sponsors
Establish the purpose of the invitation (inviting to an anniversary celebration, announcing an anniversary)
Name of honorees
Day/Date (spelled out ; e.g. Saturday, the thirteenth of June)
Does the day definitely correspond with the date’ (consult a calendar or our date checker)
Year (Two thousand and three)
Time (at six o’clock in the evening)
Name of Place (Anniversary Inn)
Location of Place (city and state but no zip code street address is optional(unless private address))
Ask friends to read the draft for mistakes prior to committing to print!

Informal Invitations

Early year invitations or invitations to informal parties can be achieved in a number of ways, the simplest is by way of a hand-written note
Ensure you include at minimum the following;
the purpose of the invitation (inviting to an anniversary celebration, announcing an anniversary)
Honorees (if parents then ‘for our parents’ is acceptable)
Day/Date, days and months spelt out
Time
Name of Place
Location of Place (if the guest would not know where it is)

Alternatively stationery suppliers can provide fill-in-the-blank invitation cards that you could use or consider using E-invite.com to invite them via email.

Printed informal anniversary invitations can also be obtained and often include a short poem reflecting the celebration. It is also possible to get these printed in different colour inks to reflect the anniversary e.g. Silver, Gold or metallic red for Ruby (40th)
Whenever you have an invitation printed you should include the details in the style of a formal invitation e.g. follow the order, capitalisation and grammar rules given in that section.

If invitees to the celebration are expected to pay for their meal as it is being held in a restaurant then they are co-hosts e.g. they are also giving the party and hence the invitations should reflect this. e.g. you could write “… are invited to share in a dinner to celebrate the 40th Anniversary of…” In this situation you can also use an invitation response card to include the menu items and price of each (agreed with the restaurant prior to sending out), this helps to reinforce the fact that they will be paying for it or at least prompt them to ask. (Back to Invitation Wording)

If the occasion is an informal occasion such as a Cook out/barbecue or, in the case of a house party or Pitch-in dinner you want people to bring a item, make sure you’ve included this information on the invite. To cover all bases try to co-ordinate the dishes although refrain from making it prescriptive.

Responding to an invitation to an anniversary party

When you receive an invitation to an anniversary party if the host has requested a response e.g. it has R.s.v.p on it, then you should respond even if you are not going.

Even if they have not specifically asked for a response it is nice to respond to thank them in advance for the invitation.

Typically you should respond within two weeks of the invitation as if you are not going it may give the host the opportunity to invite someone else.

 

What details go with our anniversary


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Wedding Anniversary Etiquette – What… ; Frequently Asked Questions


Q.What is my Wedding Anniversary symbol or material?

A.If you know how many years you have been married or are planning to celebrate then you can find out what you anniversary is from our anniversary selector page. All those that have a traditional symbol or material associated against the year are listed here.


Q.I forgot my Wedding anniversary this year what should I do?

A. If your partner is upset by this then we would recommend a period of grovelling followed by a period of penance !!  In this day and age it is often easy to forget important days such as Anniversaries by all means use our reminder to help you remember and it is provided only for this purpose.


Q.What are the Anniversaries that are considered major? The most major anniversaries are the 25th and 50th, after these come 60th & 75th and then every 5th year (i.e. 5th,10th 15th etc.) with every 10th year being more important than every 5th year.


Q.Hi, I’m doing research on the wedding anniversary materials. What I’m really looking for is what each material means. Do they represent something in each year. Please email me back if you have any information about the subject, or where I can find this kind of information. Thank you.

A. I’m afraid I can’t help you in your search for the meanings of the material against the Anniversary. The closest I have come to this is the suggestion that the materials are
selected in the order that they would wear out. I have however never had this collaborated by any research I have carried out.


Q. It will be my in laws 40th wedding anniversary.  What can I do to make it special and inexpensive?

A. Try our Thoughtful Anniversary Gift Ideas Suggestions


Q. My problem is that I don’t know exactly what our children are doing for us…we do know they are having some kind of a celebration but we do not know the particulars.  SO, we want to be ready for what ever comes up and not have “egg on our face”.   I told them what ever they did, please state “No Gifts Please”. An invitation to
a celebration does not confer an expectation that gifts are expected the persons company is considered gift enough.

Q. Please help us find the right motif colour for the 65th wedding anniversary of our grandparents.  A. I afraid I cannot help you with your question either as I have not been able to find much details on
the 65th anniversary. Most lists miss out the 65th for some reason I have yet to discover. The only list I have found which contains a material for the 65th is the Gem stone list which states Star Sapphire as the Gem Stone associated with this Anniversary.


Q. What do you do for the 100th year Anniversary? A. A 100th Wedding Anniversary is a 10 carat Diamond anniversary and I would be
surprised to hear of couple achieving this feat. I assume you are talking about a company’s Centenary celebration which is slightly different although it is still called a Diamond Anniversary.


Q. I am giving my parents a surprise 25th anniversary party but I have a concern regarding gifts. my mother hates silver! what are some optional gifts i could suggest?

A. I’m afraid I can’t help you much on this one, all roads seem to lead to Silver on this
anniversary. I thought that the Gem list for anniversaries may show a different material however this was sterling silver.  One thing you could do is recreate the era when they got married and theme gifts on that era. I make it the 70’s which would either be the Glam
Rock era or early Disco!


Q. We are giving our parents a 50th Anniversary and would like to know what we should call the female and male witnesses – attendant and grooms-man?

A. Most references refer to them as witnesses, which is not a bad term in itself as this is mentioned right back to the birth of marriage ceremonies. If they did some other function at
the wedding then these titles would also do.


Q. Is there a traditional colour for the bride of 50 years to wear?

A. As it is the Golden Anniversary the colour is Gold, this doesn’t mean that the outfit has to be all gold you could choose just accessories or anywhere in between. One thing to remember however; is that it is your anniversary and thus etiquette allows you to decide what you
want to wear and how you would like to celebrate.


Q. If one of the children make a speech, what response and toasts, if any, should the parents make?

A. The replies you give to any speeches made are very dependant upon your family circle & culture; this makes this a difficult question to answer with certainty. Typically anniversary speeches follow along similar lines to a wedding celebration and thus thanking those who organized the event and for the people who turned up to join you in your celebration.
One thing to bare in mind is that it is your anniversary and thus you can choose how to respond.


Q. What is the proper way to ask for monetary gifts on an invitation for my parents 40th wedding anniversary. They do not want to offend anyone by asking. How can this be placed on the invitation in a nice manner.

A. It’s extremely difficult to ask for money on an invitation, most reference books on Anniversary Etiquette say that you should never ask for a monetary gift.  One way I’ve seen round this and was successful was to put on the invitation the reason for money, e.g. They are saving for a holiday of a lifetime or what ever the reason and that should you wish to contribute to this then there will be a collection box at the celebration that they can
contribute. At the particular event I attended the box was placed prominently but discreetly in a corner of the room and thus you did not feel you had to contribute.


Q. I was just wondering what the 100th anniversary is.  Any information you could provide would be helpful. A. The 100th Wedding Anniversary is deemed a 10 Carat Diamond Anniversary, if it is a business celebration then it is just a centenary celebration.

Who gets involved in a Wedding Anniversary

Wedding Anniversary Etiquette – Who; Frequently Asked Questions

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Q. My Parents/ Friends Anniversary is coming up should I help them celebrate it?

A. This is a matter of judgement, if you think they would appreciate the thought then by all means celebrate the anniversary in a suitable fashion. The early Wedding Anniversaries are traditionally celebrated by the couples only although a card from friends and relatives is often a nice thought. From the 15th Anniversary onward, historically, they would also start to be celebrated within the family. This I would suggest has developed with the siblings of a couple becoming aware as they got older of their parents marriage and the important
role this took within the family.

Q. It’s a major anniversary for my parents what can I do that’s special ?

A. If they are celebrating their 60th or greater then you can arrange a greeting from the Queen if you are an Commonwealth citizen who recognises the Queen as your sovereign. Greetings can be sent for the 60th Wedding Anniversary and every subsequent year. Your request must be received at Kensington Palace six (6) weeks in advance of the event date. Follow the link to find the full instructions. Official Greetings

Q Does the couple the party is being given for give speeches?

A. With speeches it is down to the type of celebration the couple are holding, if they are having a repeat wedding breakfast then a formal speech would be expected. If they were having an informal party then an informal speech would be appropriate. Typically a speech of some type would be expected.

Q. As far as a speech is concerned, I guess we will just play that by ear and use common sense if and when the time comes that a speech is to be made…and should it be made by both partners or by just one???  I don’t know if
this is going to be “fun” or not.

A. One thing to remember is it is you & your Husband’s Anniversary and hence however you choose to approach the celebration will have to be accepted by your guests. Typically, and especially after 50 years!, one of you could speak for both of you however it is acceptable for both to give a speech if you would like to. A point to note also is that as you have not planned the celebration I would expect your speech to be a “Thank you for organizing this party….etc” rather than anything further. I sense that you are worrying about this party and I am sure this is not what you children want; perhaps you could have a word with them now and tell them you are worrying they should be able to reduce your fears. Above all this is a celebration thrown on you & your Husband’s behalf and hence it should be enjoyable for yourselves. I hope you have a wonderful time and the celebration is appropriate.

Q We are about to attend a 50th wedding anniversary. We are distant relatives. We realize the 50th is gold. We are wondering about a gift. Do we need to take one? Does it have to be gold?

A. Firstly, an invitation does not imply a gift should be given, it is not expected, does the invitation give any clue, sometimes they say no gifts or similar, if not then within your family circle when similar events go on are gifts given?, is the event formal or informal? These may help answer your question on whether they would be expected. As it is the 50th and as you stated it is the Golden Anniversary this does not mean the gift has to be Gold it is
merely the symbol associated with the anniversary. Other gifts are available such as celebration glasses, personalized gifts etc. that indicate the anniversary and are not gold. Mementoes of the actually wedding are sometimes good or even a photographic history of their life since the marriage. My personal favorite especially for the major anniversaries is a bottle of fine wine or champagne bottled in the year they got married.

Q. According to protocol, should the children throw their parents a party for their 50th anniversary?

A. Typically the earlier years are organized by the couple themselves, as their children grow up then they may choose to organize a celebration for their parents.  It is not expected that siblings should organize a 50th wedding anniversary and can be organized by the couple or their children. The decision on whether to have a celebration, and what type is very much a personal decision based upon the family culture that exists.

Q My parents have a 50th wedding anniversary coming up.  There are 4 children in the family who might be involved in the planning.  Oldest, 2nd Oldest, Third Oldest, Youngest.  Who of the siblings is normally considered the “point person” for the organization?

A. Typically it would go to the person best suited to take the role on. This may depend on who could devote the time needed to organize the celebration.

Q. Would you normally expect that it is the children of the anniversary couple who would initiate a family celebration to honour their parents 40th anniversary?

A. A lot of children do instigate an anniversary celebration however it is not expected that they should do so.  As it is the couple’s celebration they have the choice whether to celebrate or not and can organize their event or allow their siblings to take the lead.

Anniversary Ideas every year

Anniversary gift givingWelcome to Anniversary Ideas, your number one resource for celebrating any wedding anniversary.

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  • What is the traditional material for your anniversary?
  • What is the best way to celebrate your anniversary year?
  • What anniversary gift may I get my wife/husband?

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Once you have a good idea of the type of anniversary gifts you can purchase, we will show you the best gifts available on or off line for the anniversary theme you require.

If you are unsure;

  • what anniversary gifts are appropriate for the year being celebrated and what’s best give give your loved one
  • how to celebrate your anniversary;
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Then let us help you. we’ve been doing this for many years ever since our first web site which was the pioneer for wedding anniversary resources on the world wide web.

Anniversary Gifts

From the 1st Wedding Anniversary through to the 100th year (yes someone has given the 100th a symbol!) we supply details of the traditional or modern symbol, flower and gemstone associated with each year.

anniversary gifts lined up imageWe’ve done a lot of the work for you by searching the internet to bring together some of the best and most unique anniversary gift ideas around. Now these are just not general gifts they are specific anniversary ideas that match either the traditional or contemporary symbol for the Wedding Anniversary you are celebrating.

Wedding Anniversaries : Find out what material is traditionally associated with each year. Anniversary Etiquette : Holding an Anniversary Party? we answer the popular questions on etiquette; how to celebrate, why celebrate, gift giving and other commonly asked questions. All Wedding Anniversary details If you are celebrating a year that is not in the traditional list then this page gives themes and symbols for ever year up to the 50th and then every 5th anniversary up to the 100th!

1st Wedding anniversary

The traditional first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Paper. The modern first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Clocks. The gemstone first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fresh Water Pearl. The appropriate flowers for the first wedding anniversary are Pansies.

2nd Wedding anniversary

The traditional second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Cotton; an alternative traditional second wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Straw. The modern second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of China. The appropriate gemstone for the second wedding anniversary has a theme of Rose Quartz; an alternative gemstone for the second wedding anniversary can be themed with Garnet. The appropriate flowers for the second wedding anniversary are Cosmos.

3rd Wedding anniversary

The traditional third wedding anniversary has a theme of Leather. The modern third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Crystal; an alternative modern third wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Glass. The appropriate gemstone for the third wedding anniversary has a theme of Crystal. The flowers for the third wedding anniversary are Fushsia.

4th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fruit & Flowers; an alternative traditional fourth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Books. The modern fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Electrical Appliance. The gemstone fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone fourth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Topaz. The appropriate flowers for the fourth wedding anniversary are Geranium.

5th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Wood. The modern fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silverware. The gemstone fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Turquoise. The appropriate flowers for the fifth wedding anniversary are Daisies.

6th Wedding anniversary

The traditional sixth wedding anniversary has a theme of Sugar; an alternative traditional sixth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Iron. The modern sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Wood. The appropriate gemstone for the sixth wedding anniversary has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone for the 6th wedding anniversary can be themed with Garnet. The appropriate flowers for the sixth wedding anniversary are Calla lilies.

7th Wedding anniversary

The traditional seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Wool; an alternative traditional seventh wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Copper. The modern seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Desk Set. The appropriate gemstone for the seventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Lapis Lazuli; an alternative gemstone for the seventh wedding anniversary can be themed with Onyx. The appropriate flowers for the seventh wedding anniversary are Jack-in-the-pulpit.

8th Wedding anniversary

The traditional eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bronze; an alternative traditional eighth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Pottery. The modern eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace; an alternative modern eighth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Linen. The appropriate gemstone for the eighth wedding anniversary has a theme of Aventurine; an alternative gemstone for the eighth wedding anniversary can be themed with Multi-coloured Tourmaline. The appropriate flowers for the eighth wedding anniversary are Clematis.

9th Wedding anniversary

The traditional ninth wedding anniversary has a theme of Pottery. ; an alternative traditional ninth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Willow. The modern ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Leather. The appropriate gemstone for the ninth wedding anniversary has a theme of Tiger Eye; an alternative gemstone for the ninth wedding anniversary can be themed with Lapis Lazuli.The appropriate flowers for the ninth wedding anniversary are Poppies.

10th Wedding anniversary

The traditional tenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Tin; an alternative traditional tenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Aluminum. The modern tenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamond Jewellery. The  appropriate gemstone for the tenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Black Onyx. The appropriate flowers for the tenth wedding anniversary are Daffodils.

11th Wedding anniversary

The traditional eleventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Steel. The modern eleventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Fashion Jewellery. The appropriate gemstone for the eleventh wedding anniversary has a theme of Turquoise; an alternative gemstone for the eleventh wedding anniversary can be themed with Hematite. The appropriate flowers for the eleventh wedding anniversary are Morning Glories.

12th Wedding anniversary

The traditional twelfth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Linen; an alternative traditional twelfth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Silk. The modern twelfth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Colour Gems; an alternative modern twelfth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Pearls. The appropriate gemstone for the twelfth wedding anniversary has a theme of Agate. The appropriate flowers for the twelfth wedding anniversary are Peonies.

13th Wedding anniversary

The traditional thirteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace. The modern thirteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Textiles; an alternative modern thirteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Furs. The  appropriate gemstone for the thirteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Malachite; an alternative gemstone for the thirteenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Citrine; another alternative gemstone 13th wedding anniversary can be themed with Moonstone. The appropriate flowers for the thirteenth wedding anniversary are Hollyhock.

14th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fourteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Ivory. The modern fourteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold Jewellery. The appropriate gemstone for the fourteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Jewellery; an alternative gemstone for the fourteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Moss Agate. The appropriate flowers for the fourteenth wedding anniversary are Dahlia.

15th Wedding anniversary

The traditional fifteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Crystal. The modern fifteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Watches. The appropriate flowers for the fifteenth wedding anniversary are Roses.

After the fifteenth Wedding Anniversary the traditional anniversary gift list only provides a theme for every fifth year up until the 50th and then the Diamond Anniversary being the Seventy-fifth year.

16th Wedding anniversary

The modern sixteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver Hollowware.The appropriate gemstone for the sixteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Peridot; an alternative gemstone for the sixteenth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Aquamarine.

17th Wedding anniversary

The modern seventeenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Furniture. The appropriate gemstone for the seventeenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Amethyst; an alternative gemstone for the seventeenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Citrine.

18th Wedding anniversary

The modern eighteenth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Porcelain. The appropriate gemstone for the eighteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Opal.

19th Wedding anniversary

The modern nineteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Bronze. The appropriate gemstone for the nineteenth wedding anniversary has a theme of Aquamarine; an alternative gemstone for the nineteenth wedding anniversary can be themed with Topaz.

20th Wedding anniversary

The traditional twentieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of China. The modern twentieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bone China; an alternative modern twentieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Platinum. The appropriate flowers for the twentieth wedding anniversary are Day Lily.

21st Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-first wedding anniversary has a theme of Nickel; an alternative modern twenty-first wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Brass. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-first wedding anniversary has a theme of Iolite.

22nd Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-second wedding anniversary has a theme of Copper. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-second wedding anniversary has a theme of Spinel (all Colours).

23rd Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver plate. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-third wedding anniversary has a theme of Imperial Topaz.

24th Wedding anniversary

The modern twenty-fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Musical Instruments. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty-fourth wedding anniversary has a theme of Tanzanite.

25th Wedding anniversary also known as the Silver Wedding

The traditional twenty fifth wedding anniversary has a theme of Silver. The modern twenty fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Silver. The appropriate gemstone for the twenty fifth wedding anniversary has a theme of Sterling Silver. The appropriate flowers for the twenty fifth wedding anniversary are Iris or is Iri the correct plural.

26th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Original Pictures.

27th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sculpture.

28th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Orchids.

29th Wedding anniversary

The twenty-ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Furniture.

30th Wedding anniversary also known as the Pearl Wedding

The traditional thirtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Pearls. The modern thirtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamond Jewellery. The appropriate flowers for the thirtieth wedding anniversary are Sweet pea.

31st Wedding anniversary

The thirty-first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Timepieces.

32nd Wedding anniversary

The thirty-second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Conveyances.

33rd Wedding anniversary

The thirty-third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Amethyst.

34th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Opal.

35th Wedding anniversary also known as the Coral Wedding

The traditional thirty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Coral. The modern thirty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Jade.

36th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Bone China.

37th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alabaster.

38th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Beryl.

39th Wedding anniversary

The thirty-ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Lace.

40th Wedding anniversary also known as the Ruby Wedding

The traditional fortieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby. The modern fortieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby. The gemstone fortieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby. The appropriate flowers for the fortieth wedding anniversary are Nasturtium.

41st Wedding anniversary

The forty-first wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Land.

42nd Wedding anniversary

The forty-second wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Improved Real Estate.

43rd Wedding anniversary

The forty-third wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Travel.

44th Wedding anniversary

The forty-fourth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Groceries.

45th Wedding anniversary also known as the Sapphire Wedding

The traditional forty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire. The modern forty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire. The gemstone forty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alexandrite.

46th Wedding anniversary

The forty-sixth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Original Poetry Tribute.

47th Wedding anniversary

The forty-seventh wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Books.

48th Wedding anniversary

The forty-eighth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Optical Goods.

49th Wedding anniversary

The forty-ninth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Luxuries, any Kind.

50th Wedding anniversary also known as the Golden Wedding

The traditional fiftieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold. The modern fiftieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Gold Jewellery. The appropriate flowers for the fiftieth wedding anniversary are Violets.

After the fiftieth wedding anniversary most of the anniversary gift lists move to only nominating a theme ever five years.

55th Wedding anniversary also known as the Emerald Wedding

The traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of 55th; an alternative traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald. The modern fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Emerald. The gemstone fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alexandrite.

60th Wedding anniversary

The modern sixtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The gemstone sixtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.

65th Wedding anniversary

The sixty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Star Sapphire.

70th Wedding anniversary

The modern seventieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Platinum.

75th Wedding anniversary also known as the Diamond Wedding

The traditional seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The modern seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.

80th Wedding anniversary

The eightieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Pearls; an alternative modern eightieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds. Oak has also been mentioned although no reference source can be found for this theme.

85th Wedding anniversary

The eight-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire; an alternative modern eight fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.

90th Wedding anniversary

The ninetieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds; an alternative modern ninetieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald.

95th Wedding anniversary

The ninety-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby; an alternative modern ninety fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.

100th Wedding anniversary

The one hundredth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ten Carat Diamond.